Grief Coach · Teacher · Writer
Learn to live with grief — not get over it.
I'm Avery. I work with people who look functional on the outside but know something inside hasn't caught up. Together we meet grief honestly, in real time, in a real body, and learn to carry it with more room to breathe.
Meet Avery
My story.
I am Avery Collura, a grief coach and teacher. My work was born in the days after my husband, Dan, died in 2023, when life in Australia collapsed and I had to learn how to begin again.
Today I sit with people who are learning to live with grief rather than get over it. Together we build a real relationship with it, in real time, inside a real body.
I am currently writing my first book, anything., about grief, love, sobriety, and the weird work of beginning again.
If you would like to know who I am and how I hold this work, you can read my story.
Read my story
Invitation to Grieve
Grief, in good company.
Most grief work happens alone, late at night, behind a functional face. Invitation to Grieve is different: a small, guided cohort for people tired of carrying it solo. We meet grief in real time and in the body, in honest conversation with others who understand. Not to fix it. To learn to live with it, together.
Doors open to the next cohort soon.
The Container
Sit a little closer to this work.
Every week I share new writing on Patreon, free to anyone who follows along. That free writing gives you the feeling of this work. The Container, the paid tier inside the same Patreon, gives you the language for it. It is the home of the named frameworks, the companion field notes, the ceremony templates for the losses no one else will mark, the body practices, and the Letters.
Grief is not a problem to solve, and this is not a place that will rush you to the other side of it. It is a room built to hold the whole thing, the loss and the life growing alongside it, both at once. You can read at your own pace, return to the frameworks when a hard day needs scaffolding, and stay in ongoing conversation with the work between cohorts and long after.
Inside, you will find:
- Named frameworks for the landmarks grief actually has
- Companion field notes for being beside someone in loss
- Ceremony templates for the transitions no one will mark
- Body and nervous-system practices
- Letters, written to the griever you are
- Audio versions, so you can listen when reading is too much
Follow free for the weekly writing. The Container is five dollars a month, with the first seven days free.
The Books
Two books, on the way.
The framework · out first
The Hole in the Garden
The named framework at the heart of this work — the grief hole, the garden that keeps growing around it, and the slow art of moving between the two. A way to give your grief a shape you can actually hold.
The memoir · coming next
anything.
A memoir of grief, love, sobriety, and the weird, ordinary work of beginning again — written in the years after my husband, Dan, died.
Be the first to read them — join the list below.
The Newsletter
Words, when I have them.
Every so often I send something out: a reflection, an early piece of the writing, word of the books and the next Invitation to Grieve. Rare, and never noise. If you'd like to be among the first to read what comes next, leave your name here.
Contact
Say hello.
Whether you're reaching out to collaborate, curious about the work, or simply want to share a story — this is a place to begin. Every conversation that starts here matters to me.